Overcoming Feeling Overwhelmed
Do you ever feel like you are overwhelmed from day to day? Do you ever feel like you are stretched too thin with all of your daily responsibilities? If this describes how you feel, keep reading. I am going to share some tips with you on what has helped me tackle a busy life without losing my mind. I am a married woman, a mother of four kids, and a full-time student. In addition to that: I work a full-time job. To put the icing on the cake, two of my kids are three-year-old twins!
I know feelings of exasperation all too well. I am asked all the time, how do you do it? My response is always putting all of my trust in God! See, God gives us all grace to tackle the challenges in our daily lives. With that said, He will grant you the mindset to problem solve, strength to persevere, and patience to endure. More importantly, just know that you are never alone in your struggle. 1 Peter 5:10 states, “And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.” This scripture shows me that God will step in and help me when I am weak or if I feel that I cannot handle certain things in my life. Now that I have your attention let us jump into some proven tips that I live by each day.
Tip #1 Pray before you start your day. Ask God to give you the strength, wisdom, and knowledge. Be specific with your prayer. List everything you have on your agenda for that day. You will be surprised at how God will give you the strength to handle everything that comes your way. If you make the time to put God first, He will give you the strength to handle everything else. Besides, quiet time with God has shown me things in my life that I needed to eliminate. By eliminating unnecessary things in our lives, we can make time to do things that are purpose driven.
Tip #2 Make lists, schedules, and prioritize. I cannot express this enough. If you have a busy life, as I do, it is easy to find yourself in a situation where you feel like you have not accomplished anything at the end of your day. The reason might be that you are going in circles and completing tasks that are not important. Writing down what you need to do on a daily basis helps you plan. Making a schedule is a way to strategize. Prioritizing helps you determine what items on your task list is most critical for that day. If grocery shopping works best on Thursday while your son is at basketball practice, why is it on your list for Monday? Do what you can to make most of your day. There are only 24 hours in a day, and girlfriend; you have to sleep during some of those hours.
Tip #3 Learn how to say no. Often times, we feel like we have to take on everything thing that is handed to us. You are not a machine or the energizer bunny that just keeps on going. It is okay to say no to other people’s requests. Heck, it is okay to say to no to the demands that you place on yourself! If you are a person who always comes up with ideas in your head, it is okay to set those ideas aside and work on them at a later date. You do not have to complete everything all at once. Trust me, if God gave you those ideas, He will show you the right time to manifest them in your life.
Tip #4- Surround yourself with positive people. Negativity can become poison in your life. If you inhale enough poison, it can make you sick or even destroy your life. When you are feeling overwhelmed, it is easy to begin to feel sorry for yourself or blame others. None of those emotions will serve a good purpose. Do not allow any negative spirits to overtake your thoughts. The same is true for negative people. If you have that one girlfriend, who is always calling you to brag about how she is doing something in her life that she knows that you cannot do, pay attention to her intention. Know that she does not have your best interest at heart and limit your conversations with her. Trust me, both of you will benefit from the time apart. Hopefully, she he will learn how to respect you and your time. If not, you are giving her the opportunity to make other friends.
Tip #5 Allow yourself to have a weak moment. I always tell people that it is okay to have a weak moment and cry. God created us with emotions. Just do not plan to remain in that space too long. Often times, we feel like we cannot let people see us have a weak moment. You are human! Find a person who you can trust (Not that negative friend we mentioned in Tip #4). This person should be someone who you can be vulnerable with and let it all out! I cannot tell you how good I felt after I let out a mean and ugly cry. Do not bottle up all that stuff, because it will only become toxic. Let it out, feel better, and then move on.
Tip #6 Be mindful of your words. Proverbs 18:21 says the tongue has the power of life and death. If you speak that you are tired, you will be tired. Speak life over your situation. Look in the mirror and encourage yourself to keep going. Remember that God honors sacrifice. You might be sacrificing time and or other things in your life to earn your degree or build your business. Remind yourself of the reasons why you began the new journey in the first place. Was it to earn a larger income for your family or have more time for vacations? Celebrate your small wins and congratulate yourself on what you have accomplished so far. Always remember that there will be a reward at the end.
After you read all of my tips, try to find ways to put them to practice in your own life. In addition, above all these tips I want to stress the point of you creating a space for YOU! It is very important to take time out for yourself, even if it is just a few minutes of meditation or a bubble bath. We all need time to ourselves to rejuvenate.