It's Time to be Healed
by: LaShae Roberts
You have probably heard the saying, “Time heals all wounds”. I am here to tell you that time is not enough. Not only do you need time, but you need perspective, forgiveness, and love. John 10:10 says, “The thief does not come except to steal, kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life and that they may have it more abundantly”. My sister, if you are walking about life carrying the hurt of your past, you are doing yourself a disservice
The primary goal of the enemy is to weigh you down with worry, anger, bitterness, self-loathing, low self-esteem, frustration, hopelessness, helplessness, self-doubt: do I need to keep going? He places all of these burdens on you so that you do not have the strength and energy to fulfill the will of God. He’s clever. He does not just study your weaknesses; he studies your strengths too. As a matter of fact, he knows what you are capable of before you even know. This is why he tries to entangle your mind and emotions in battles that will keep you in distress longer than its intended season.
So Shae, how do I move past wounds and receive healing? I am so glad you asked! Let’s consider the ingredients for healing and keep it simple.
Time. While wallowing in hurt is not going to help you, sweeping trauma under the rug is not healthy either. If you need to grieve, do so. Do not ignore the process, embrace it. It’s going to hurt, I know, but sometimes you have to get cut to be healed. It is not fair to your loved ones or your significant other to receive the aftershocks of your despair. Regardless of whether it was a violation of your rights, a bad break-up or death – take the time you need to heal so that you can be healthy and available in your relationships and your purpose. And no, there is no timeline, but if you’re intentional about your healing, you will know when it’s time to move on.
Perspective. Take the lesson, no the pain. What can you glean from this experience? It could be a revelation about another person, yourself, your circumstance, your drive, your motivation or your character. Have you noticed that a lot of the perspective has to do with you? Let me share this quote from a book I read, “God doesn’t waste pain”. I am not implying you caused it; I am simply saying that if it happened, God allowed it, and there is something He needs you to glean from it. And remember, God is the originator of “No Child Left Behind”. He is not going to advance you to the next level if you don’t pass or get what you need from this one level. He doesn’t want you illiterate or ill prepared in your next season.
Forgiveness. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. Forgiveness is not about them; it’s about you. As long as you hold things in, you give someone the authority to dictate your destiny. If every time you think about the one who has wronged you and you have an aggressive or agitated reaction, you haven’t forgiven them. The Holy Spirit revealed to me that I held onto stuff because I did not want the responsibility that came with forgiveness. As long as you withhold it, you have the “right” to shame them, ridicule them, treat them badly and you feel justified in doing all of this. Once you forgive, you lose all of that justification, and you’re now made responsible for how you treat them. I am here to tell you that there are so much joy and peace on the other side of forgiveness.
Love. From whom? You and God. Love yourself enough to know that you’re worth having peace of mind. Love yourself more than the discontent you have for someone else. Whatever you give energy to will live and flourish. If you feed hatred, it’ll grow, and it will consume you more than the person it’s aimed towards. By loving yourself more, you recognize that you are deserving of the abundant life that God has promised. By loving yourself, you take power from the enemy and your enemies. And lastly, always remember that Daddy God loves you more than you can ever love yourself! Pray for God to help you and overshadow you with His love. In His love is peace, joy, grace, mercy, patience, and everything else you need.
It’s time for you to be healed for real. Let’s start today.